Posted by Leanna Jayne

okay so you’re definitely NOT ALONE. when i was 12 i started dating this guy for about 3 months. and tbh it wasn’t even a real relationship. all we did was text, we didn’t even talk in person lol. so yes I know that that is nothing at all like a real relationship but this was my first boyfriend and when he dumped (the day before school started) me I felt like a rock had dropped into my stomach. I felt so heartbroken. For months he was all I could think about. And this is going to sound so so bad but I basically was constantly texting him practically begging to date him again (it was very sad and very lame lol) and then I went through this phase where all I wanted was to make him jealous so I started talking to all the guys. Anyway about a year goes by and I’m about to start highschool and I look myself in the mirro and for the first time I realise how silly I’m being. Wasting my time thinking about a guy who didn’t like me back? And it was then that I decided that I would no longer focus on boys but on myself and my education. And trust me it worked. End of that year I came out single, happy and the top academic student of my year. Honestly all you have to do is change your mindset. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about him, start thinking about yourself. Do something for yourself. All the time when I’m feeling upset I just do something for myself. A couple of weeks ago I was feeling sad so I decided that I would go shopping and I came home $100 poorer but much happier. So overall… please remember that boys are not what make us complete, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and the best thing to do it just make yourself feel good. Eat a cake. Or a bar of chocolate. Binge watch Netflix or go shopping. Or take yourself to the movies or take yourself for lunch. Him seeing your happy and better than ever will make him feel like the biggest idiot in the world.