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Hey guys,
I can’t talk to boys…..
Like, I always feel weird around them and clam up…..
I’m quite outgoing around girls, but when it comes to boys, I just cannot talk to them.
Btw, I AT ALL COSTS always avoid my crush (I’m straight and a girl)!
So anyway, I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience or has any advice?


  • Posted by Bethany Nicholson

    Hey there
    I used to face that exact problem with my crush Eden who I liked for almost five years! Anyways I’m super confident around girls and that’s why I made the decision to become lesbian. Lucy and I have been going out for two months now and I’m the happiest I’ve been! Maybe your the same

  • Posted by Umbrella09

    Hey Bethany,
    Thanks so much for replying and I’m glad that u found a solution that was right for u!
    However, I don’t think that will be the case 4 me (nothing personal ?)…..
    I believe that it may have something to do with the fact that at my old school, there was a kind of culture that if you talked to a boy then you immediately ‘liked’ them, and you’d get teased really badly about it… my new school there isn’t that culture, but I am still finding it hard to interact…..I hope that I can come out of my shell soon, but we’ll see I guess! Btw, if anyone has any other advice I’d love to hear it!

  • Posted by Gemmah@Libra

    Hey Umbrella09,

    Growing up means discovering who you are & being comfortable in your own skin. Everyone’s going through the exact same thing so this time can be a mix of excitement & awkwardness!

    Boys can often feel like a completely different species, but they’re not! They’re human just like you, & talking to them is just like talking to girls. It’s all about being yourself & finding something in common!

    Just because you talk to a boy, doesn’t mean you like them! Sometimes it can take a while for everyone to realise this. The culture at your old school wasn’t right. Nobody should ever be teased, especially when they’re just trying to be friendly! Try not to let it hold you back at your new school.

    We all take time to come out of our shell, so just start by taking little steps. Try making conversation with the boys you share a class with. You’re in the same class so that’s already one thing you have in common! If you’re still feeling a bit nervous, try involving one of your girlfriends in the convo so you’re not alone.

    You got this girl!

  • Posted by Poppymeow


    I used to be like that too! I could NOT talk to boys at all. I could barely even look at them! I also admired my crush from a distance without truly getting in there! Until Allison arrived. She’s like a ‘outgoing with boys & outgoing with girls’ person, and I was just GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS AHH NO BOYSSS NOOOO person. You see the difference. Anyway, she helped me become more confident with talking to boys, so now I’m okay with talking to both genders! You could poke around with people you talk to alot and your besties! Ask them for advice cause’ they might be able to help you! Best of luck!

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