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Do I tell someone?

My best friend and I have have been friends since reception. We have just started high school and are still friends. Lately I have been very worried about her. She has been cutting herself and not eating or drinking at school. My other friends have told a teacher and he told the well-being worker. My friend then went to see the well-being worker but completely lied and he thinks that she is fine. She is very skinny and wants to become anorexic. I don’t know what to do, or if to tell my parents? Plz help

  • Posted by Gemmah@Libra

    Hey girlfriend,

    Firstly, I can already tell that you’re a great friend because you’re so worried about this person. So just know that if she continues to have such supportive people in her life, she will be okay!

    I’d definitely recommend having a chat with your friend about how she’s feeling. Let her know that you’re really worried about her and that you really want to help. Before telling your parents, I’d suggest to your friend that she should have a chat to someone (ideally a professional, like your GP), as they will be able to help her. However, if she doesn’t want to reach out to someone about it herself or says that there is nothing wrong, just remember there’s always help available for you as a friend, to help your friend on their behalf. There’s some great organisations like Lifeline (13 11 14) & Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636). They’re amazing listeners & have so much information to help you. XXX

  • Posted by carebear64

    Hey there,

    My friend had many of the same problems, too. She cut herself and saw herself as too fat, even though she was a very healthy weight. She was very depressed because her family didn’t support her when she came out as gay.

    I learned that the most important thing to do is be supportive. And this might not be in the way you think. When she tells you she’s cut herself again, don’t say you’re disappointed in her, because this will make her feel judged and as if she can’t open up to you. Instead, try asking her why she did it and what made her feel like that in the moment. Try to help her work through her thoughts so that she knows you’re there for her and you aren’t judging her.

    I know it can be hard, especially if she refuses to see help, but your friendship is probably doing more than you know.

    Hope this helps, and I hope she gets better.


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