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I feel super guilty

Okay myself and the girl in this story – let’s call her Sophie – are both almost 18 now, but this happened about 2 or 3 years ago (so we were 14-15?).

We were on the same netball team, and my brother + mum and and watch once…
after this netball game, the next morning, Sophie and I were having breakfast together and I can’t really remember but I think Sophie was saying she was fat or ugly or something? And so I basically replied ‘no, you’re so pretty and so skinny!’ and for some reason to prove she was skinny i decided to tell her that my brother had said she looked anorexic when he’d seen her at the netball game. Now at the time I thought this was a good thing – I didn’t really know what anorexia was and I also didn’t know that people could think they were ugly for being too skinny. And this girl Sophie is really really shy and self concious, like in the changing rooms she always tries to not cover her body completely, and she doesn’t like talking to people she doesn’t know and so on.

Anyway, over the years we’ve drifted apart so we don’t really talk much anymore, but every now and then I think about this and I feel really bad, because now I’m older I realize that just because she thinks she isn’t pretty doesn’t automatically mean she thinks she’s fat (and I also know now that fat doesn’t equal ugly anyway).

I don’t really know what to do about it, I want her to know she’s beautiful because she truly is, and also your weight doesn’t define your beauty – of course it may take a toll on your health on either extreme but it still doesn’t define how beautiful you are and the health is no one’s business expect for that person and no one has a right to tell someone to lose or put on weight unless they are a professional in that area. That’s besides the point though… I just don’t know what to do.

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