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Mentally struggling

I am so sorry I know this is really long and you don’t have to read it if you don’t want to but I really need some advice and help   I am mentally struggling at the moment I don’t know what to do anymore. A lot has changed ove the past year, my friends have started going to parties and drinking and all that and I am not comfortable with that stuff because I am more into having fun by playing sport or going swimming in a creek or something. I don’t know what to do anymore because I suffer from social anxiety which obviously stops me from being able to go to parties. At the end of last year all my friends convinced me to go to a party and they promised they would help me and not ditch me because it was a party with 200 people going. Right from when I got there they all ditched me and I was left by myself and I started having a panic attack. Not one of my friends were there for me to comfort me, a girl that I barely knew was the only one who comforted me and stayed with me until I left.  I haven’t been back to a party since because i have decided that they aren’t my type of fun. But the problem is that all my friends come back to school after a weekend and just talk about the party and all the boys they hooked up with and to be honest I am so tired of it because  I can’t have a normal conversation with any of them anymore. I have become really lonely and I feel extremely isolated and I don’t know what to do anymore. I cry myself to sleep every night because I feel like no one cares about me and I feel like I m always the backup person that they know will always be there if they need someone to turn to.  I listen to everyone’s problems but no one actually takes the time to ask me how I am. I am so over it. I don’t even know how to put all this into words because 1. I haven’t had anyone to talk to about any of this for so long (3 years) and so I don’t even know where to start anymore because there is so much that I need to get off my chest and 2. I don’t even know anymore what makes me cry and makes me feel the way I am feeling. I feel as though I am at the bottom of a deep hole and don’t know how to climb out. I am really scared I have depression. Does anyone have any advice? Or is anyone prepared to just listen while I get everything off my chest? Thanks in advance guys 🙂

  • Posted by gabby923

    I know it will be hard, but you need to leave your current group. They aren’t making you happy anymore. You don’t need to stay with them. I would suggest doing the drift. Slowly start hanging out with your other friends, or make new friends. (You can make them by approaching the next new girl or guy that comes to the school and welcoming them and talking to them). Then hang out with them more and more until you barely hang out with your old friends. Then one day, just stop hanging out with them altogether. Hope this helped xx

  • Posted by StarlightDreamer

    Hi, that’s just like me… 😛 My friends are confident and always seem to know what they want to do, but I feel like I’m on my own, just falling down an endless hole… I think you should spend time alone to reflect and find things that make you happy, whether they’re hobbies, activities, places or people, because there will always be “your kind” of people. Good luck! 🙂

  • Posted by NovaMc

    This is almost exactly like me- except for the drinking bc i am 11. All of my friends are into memes and anime and youtubers like pewdiepie and stuff but i dont find it interesting. I like smimming in creeks and art but i dont think they’re into that.

  • Posted by Gemmah@Libra

    It’s normal to go through a rough patch, but remember there’s always help available! If you often feel sad, alone & lack energy, talking to can really help. There’s some great organisations like Lifeline (13 11 14) & Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636). They’re amazing listeners & have so much information to help you.

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