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mum problems

okay so me and my mum havent had the best relationship for the past few years. in the past she has made me move schools simply because she did not like my friends, i was grounded 7 months alltogether last year and now shes grounded me again. However i dont understand or believe that ive done anything wrong… i went to a friends house n then went on a date and informed my mum on all the details (genuinely did not lie to her at all) and i got home and my mum got really abusive and started yelling at me calling me a liar and accusing me of sneaking around and going to a party. My mum and step dad would not listen to me explain my side of the story and they dont want to hear anything from me as its all “lies”. My mum was making comments such as “your a f***ing liar just like your father”. i dont know what to do anymore i feel like i live in a toxic environment especially because it happens very regularly. i want to leave home but im only 15

  • Posted by Hini W-t

    Hi Girl,

    I know what you’re going though. You could try talking to your dad or I know this is a big step but maybe just run away. If you have someone you can stay with and you have money and you’ll be safe then I think do it. But it’s up to you, maybe try talking to your mum when shes not in a bad mood.

    I hope I help a bit! ? Goodluck ?

  • Posted by Grace Andrews

    Hi, please don’t run away. I know this might sound silly but talking to a helpline or councillor really does help. Maybe give your mum some space and chat to her later on. Stay strong girl!❤️❤️

  • Posted by embo

    ugg tough for you
    try calling a helpline for some more advice if your mum/stepdad start being psyicly abusive you can call the police and they will help you

  • Posted by Gemmah@Libra

    Hey xxjordy, That really does sound like a toxic relationship and environment to be in. It’s really tricky when relationships with parents aren’t going well. There’s some great organisations like Lifeline (13 11 14) & Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636). They’re amazing listeners & have so much information to help you, so I would definitely give them a call.
    Another suggestion I have would be writing your mum a letter. This could work really well because she could digest what you’ve written in her own time. Also, speak to your friends about it too, if it gets too much even just spending a few nights at your friends house could be great to get some air & so you can speak to people about your situation. Get your friends mum to call your mum if you are sleeping over so she knows where you have been & can’t accuse you of lying.
    Even school teachers are really helpful with situations like this, they are great listeners and often deal with similar circumstances a lot.
    You’re doing a great job. Try not and take the things your step dad & mum say to heart, especially when you know you haven’t done anything wrong. Unfortunately, sometimes people blame others for things, even when they haven’t done anything wrong. Keep strong, stay honest & seek help/ advice where you can. Hope this helps xx

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