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I Got Into A Disagreement With Mum. What Should I Do?

Hi Gem, So I recently got into a disagreement with my mum and she kept talking about how I’ve been having attitude these past 2 weeks, and while that may be true, I feel this conversation was one sided. Because most if not all of the time I’m reaalllllllly happy that day, and then boom I’m getting picked on or they are saying things that aren’t true. I feel like have standards to live up to, and I really feel like these past 2 weeks have been a resemblance of all the deep rooted emotion I’ve been feeling this whole year, but she/they just don’t see it. I have spoken to them on various occasions telling them how I feel, and communicating that I am about to ‘snap’, but I feel none of that is being seen. It’s always ‘I did this and that’. What should I do? Any advice? Thanks

Gemmah Says

Hi there! 

Oh no, fighting with anyone (but especially mum) is never nice. If there are things you still want to say, why not write your feelings down in a letter to mum? Or pull her aside for a chat when it’s just the two of you? Start off by telling her that you want to chat & that you want for her to just listen until you’re done. You’ll find that getting everything off your chest will feel really good & she’ll be able to understand how you’ve been feeling lately.

If you’re finding that there’s a lot of emotions that you want to unpack, remember there’s always help available! There’s some great organisations like Lifeline (13 11 14) & Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636). They’re amazing listeners & have so much information to help you. 💕 

Love Gem x