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I’m 12 and I honestly think I’m falling in love with this 16 year old guy.

Hey,so here’s the thing. I’m 12 and I honestly think I’m falling in love with this 16 year old guy I’m friends with. I told him I liked him and he said we should talk. But my parents are doing everything to separate us, and I just wish they’d leave me alone! i know he isn’t a pedophile or anything, but people keep insisting that we aren’t ever going to work out. we flirt all the time, but recently i’ve been feeling as if he isnt putting effort into whatever we have together. its always me who has to pop up first, sometimes he does.but what should i do? should i carry on talking to him and defy my parents,or cut him off complelely?

Gemmah Says

Hey Girl, Hmm boys, they’re a bit of a mystery to us aren’t they. It’s so great that you’re reaching out about your feelings for this boy. At 12, we are usually entering the world of puberty. During puberty you can start to feel a number of emotional and physical changes happening to your body. It’s a rollercoaster ride, but don’t fret, it’s all completely normal! One emotional change that can occur is starting to feel an interest that is more than friends in other people, so what you’re going through is totally natural.

I would suggest talking to this boy about how you feel & he will most likely tell you how he is feeling too. This will give you some clarity on the situation & whether there’s potential for a relationship.
I would also suggest chatting to your parents, being open and honest about your feelings towards this boy & letting them know that you are going to have a chat with him.
If after you have spoken to both your parents & this boy you feel that he isn’t putting in the effort with you, then perhaps it will be better to end things by explaining to him how you are feeling.
The best thing is to be open & honest with everyone in this situation. You’re doing a great job!